Category: TENDER VOICE

NO MORE SHAME BUT HIS GLORY

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 “Instead of your trouble, God has crowned you with double honor; you have no business with your naysayers to let the sound of their voice stop you on your tracks… It’s not over; get up and run with the winds of His grace on your back” On your mark, set, GO…

The children of Ephraim, being armed and carrying bows, Turned back in the day of battle… Psalms 78:9 NKJV

As covenant children of the creator of heaven and earth, we have become living icons of a living God on is side of eternity. We have the very DNA of God, to master every form of situation effortlessly. The reason we can confidently look in the face of obstacles stacked up against us and not be paralyzed in fear and discouragement, but rather shout from the roof top to the hearing of Satan and his cohorts; “we will not be ashamed or disgraced”. It is not a matter of what we know or can do better in life through self effort, it’s a matter of complete dependence on a God who is an ever-present help in times of trouble. You cannot be corrupted or put to shame friend; you are crowned in honor! For Yahweh is your help.

For the Lord God will help Me; Therefore I will not be disgraced; Therefore I have set My face like a flint, And I know that I will not be ashamed – Isaiah 50:7 NKJV

Do you remember the young David, standing in a very hostile environment against an enemy of God, when the battle lines were drawn between the Philistine champion, I-can-helpGoliath and God’s covenant people, Israel. David was not only fighting against Goliath, he was also fighting against his inner critic and the negative analyses of his own brothers, who were experience military men in the army of Saul. His brothers had the accolade and the ability in tactical warfare to analyze things in the flesh to sow a

seed of fear and doubt into their younger brothers heart. They could even visualize his untimely death and disgrace to the kingdom of Saul and that of their family. They saw shame, but David saw the mercies of God, which is new every morning. Their analysis could not deter him because his conviction and opinion of his God, outweighed every silly voice of doubt in his ears. What do you see and what are you hearing? You can control your emotions or bend to the suggestions of men if you are distracted from who your God is and who you are in Him. God is on your side….you can only press on through the dark valleys of life. You are not far from change!! What are you facing today? Does the negative opinion of your Doctor and the bad report of the media, instill fear into your life, yielding the fruit of hopelessness and despairing of tomorrow? This is your time to believe that God has already crowned you with glory and honor, therefore victory over sickness and lack is imminent. Help is here! Glory to God!! Look beyond your predicament my friend and behold the beauty of Christ as you transform from glory to glory by His Spirit.

  Now Eliab his oldest brother heard when he spoke to the men; and Eliab’s anger was aroused against David, and he said, “Why did you come down here? And with whom have you left those few sheep in the wilderness? I know your pride and the insolence of your heart, for you have come down to see the battle.” And David said, “What have I done now? Is there not a cause? ( 1 Samuel 17:28-29 (NKJV)

IS THERE NOT A CAUSE – When you understand your assignment in life, and become passionate and obsess about the God who assigned, you will always rise above the hump. David knew his cause… he had a special knowledge of God and his ability to do the impossible through the ordinary. He plugged himself into God’s activity, imagesCAT9VYIXexpecting a turnaround miracle from Him. He could not be moved by men’s negativity or the sight of the giant, Goliath. He was so full of God; fear was nowhere to be found in his vocabulary. He boldly declared to the Philistine champion; 

“Then David said to the Philistine, “You come to me with a sword, with a spear, and with a javelin. But I come to you in the name of the LORD of hosts, the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have defied. This day the LORD will deliver you into my hand, and I will strike you and take your head from you. And this day I will give the carcasses of the camp of the Philistines to the birds of the air and the wild beasts of the earth that all the earth may know that there is a God in Israel. Then all this assembly shall know that the LORD does not save with sword and spear; for the battle is the LORD’s, and He will give you into our hands.” 1 Samuel 17:45-47 (NKJV)

Embrace, Empowered, EnergizedWhat kind of attitude are you demonstrating in the midst of a very complex situation you dealing with? Do you shudder in fear and disbelief or you’ve learn to hope in God no matter the circumstances? God always honors the trust we place in Him. When the battle is always the Lord’s, He will always place our adversaries underneath our feet, to glorify His name. Instead of shame, you will see the Lords glory in all areas of life. David saw the glory of God revealed through him, when he stood boldly for the God of Israel. God is always looking for a man who will plug into His redemptive plan, to pull down the evil restrictions and limitation which exalt itself against the knowledge of God. You can be that agent of change at your office, school, family or community, where everybody is afraid to stand out for what they believe. Be that voice in your community or local Church, to break the glass ceiling hanging over the heads of people; for the joy that Christ to be experienced abundantly.

WHO WOULD HAVE THOUGHT? Who would have thought that Goliath will fall the hands of a young shepherd boy, who was not officially enrolled into the army of King Saul? The stuff in your life which keeps you in a state of anxiety, fear, stress and depression are not from your God; they come your way from Satan, to contain you in a dungeon of shame and disgrace. You are not far from help. Your God has already given the victory through His Son Jesus. Rise and begin to do things you have been made run into his presenceto believe that it is impossible. God does not help the helper, He helps the helpless. Your weakness and doubts are to bring you to a place of dying to self and embrace the fullness of His grace to do the uncommon.

So David prevailed over the Philistine with a sling and a stone, and struck the Philistine and killed him. But there was no sword in the hand of David.  Therefore David ran and stood over the Philistine, took his sword and drew it out of its sheath and killed him, and cut off his head with it. And when the Philistines saw that their champion was dead, they fled. -1 Samuel 17:50-51 (NKJV)

My friend whatever is meant to bring you shame and disgrace or to keep you in perpetual agony, is packing its luggage from your tent. The chronic ailments, scarcity, hurt and the bondage of addiction, are not a match to the glorious power of God, which delivered us from every curse of the law into the boundless riches of His inheritance. It’s a new day; a day God crowns your life with restoration of life, favor, total victory, wholeness and salvation, for the total man in Christ Jesus. Amen!!

– McDaniels Gyamfi | GOG2014 –

AT YOUR FEET

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 I want to sit at your feet to behold your beauty
 I want to sit at your feet, consumed by your love

 Free my soul from the snare of the Fowler
 Free my soul from bowing down to other gods
 Trapped in the prison of this life my soul wonder and cringed
 The zeal of this world consume me like a fire in my bones
 Aimless and pointless pursuits are my passion and obsession

 Seduce my heart with your love
 Lead me to your banqueting house
 I see my way home
 I come running with tears
 The irresistible snare of self has lost it's luster
 Your throne has found a place at the hollow of my heart

 At your feet your glory shines on
 At your feet your beauty emanates
 At your feet I see a portrait of myself
 I will rather die at your feet than to die at the feet of this world
 Rest my soul in God and at the feet of His Christ

 Judgment stood face to face with my guilt
 At your feet mercy triumphed over judgement
 I gazed at the wonder of your great love
 The colors of life stood up in beauty
 My heart is drenched in beauty
 The sound of amazing grace make sense to my brokenness

 Let not the sound of grace fade away like a ghost in my ears
 Turn it up high until all other sound fade away
 Your voice has stolen my soul, my love
 No other voice will I hear
 No other song will I sing
 Except the song of your grace

 Amazing grace how sweet the sound
 That save a wretch like me
 I was blind but now I see
 I was lost but now I am found;
 At your feet!

 -2014GOG|McDaniels Gyamfi-

Let God Lead

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 So you think God needs your help? Huh!!
 It's not more of Him and less of us
 It's ALL of Him, NONE of us
 That sound crazy!! Right?

 God does not help those who help themselves
 God help the helpless

– McDaniels Gyamfi

I DON’T NEED YOUR GOD, I NEED YOUR ANOINTING!

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   Just as one cannot separate water from being wet, you cannot separate God from the anointing. 

Just as one cannot separate water from being wet, you cannot separate God from the anointing. What the Church call anointing is a reflection of the character of God in a Photo Credit: www.wildolive.co.uk person’s life. Anointing is not goose pimples, a cliché, emotionalism nor mechanical influence nor human technique.

ANOINTING IS GOD…God’s power, wisdom, love, creativity, knowledge, and all that God is, flowing through human vessels, for the glory of God. The power or the ability to bear lasting fruitfulness is in the enabling grace of Christ. That was what Paul meant when He said; “I can do all things through Christ(the anointed one and His anointing) who strengthens me. (Phil 4:13)

I don’t need your God, I need your anointing… is a saddening reflection of the heartbeat and a false quest of a generation, willing to excel in life outside the confines ophoto credit: google imagesf the living logos. I want to do well in my ministry through the power He gives but not interested in the source of the oil.

My anointing or the anointing of God upon my life, cannot be given to any entity, even my children. Don’t be in shock! Brace up for the truth which sets free…Here is the thing; I live on a borrowed life of God, called the quality life or the abundant life. This life is anchored on my intimate relationship with God (eternal life), through Jesus Christ. Chew on this; “The release of the anointing on one’s life, is on the basis of our relationship with Jesus, through faith”.

DESIRE You can have a burning desire in your heart for the anointing of God upon my life, (ain’t nothing wrong with that)…one unique thing I can do for an individual, is to awaken them to the consciousness of the incredible presence of God, already working in them. Against this background, nurture them to build on a relationship with God, to unleash their uniqueness is a very important part of the process. It is totally impossible to give your personal relationship with God to another, and if one can’t give his or her relationship with God to others; I don’t think you can give to an individual, your anointing. Any Spirit filled person, can surely unveil unto a believer what God isimagesSUN4KAOZ already doing in their life, by the guidance of the Holy Spirit, through prophecy, word of knowledge, teaching etc. and lay their hands on them to confirm His will in their life. At the end of the day…your anointing was not giving to you by the one who laid his hands on you. They were just a vital channel within God’s activity. This is very simple!

WHAT ABOUT TIMOTHY?
Paul didn’t give Timothy his gift or calling. He awakens Tim to what God was already doing in his life. Paul writes–1Timothy 4:14: “Do not neglect the gift that is in you, which was given to you by prophecy with the laying on of the hands of the leadership.” In other words, God spoke what he was doing in Timothy life to the Elders, and they approved of him into ministry by the laying of their hands.
Paul laying hands on Timothy was not with the intention to pass on a gift or power as it has become very common in some Christian circles. (People are running around for the next man of God in town for impartation, instead of looking up to the man above for His anointing)

“2 Timothy 1:6-7 “Therefore I remind you to stir up the gift of God which is in you through the laying on of my hands. For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.”

In other words Timothy should not succumb to the pressure from others because of his youth, but become conscious of the power, love, and sound mind which were already given to all who believe in Christ.  You already got it my friend. Don’t step outside of God for a short cut. Jesus is the way, the truth and the life.

DID TIMOTHY LEARN A GREAT DEAL FROM PAUL?
Yes, he did. When you walk with a man who reflects the character of God…his God will be your focus, and the wisdom of God in his life becomes your pursuit. (You can tap into practical common sense and supernatural principles from a man who has learned a lot from his walk with God, and what life experiences has taught them)

COPYCATS As a result of a desperate want of a generation for the “anointing”, from men on the frontline (Celebrated Pastors and Prophets, Music leaders etc.) in Photo Credit: smallbiztrends.comministry, there is a subtle trademark of deception in the body of Christ. At the end of almost every 30 minute segment of a Christian program on TV, by televangelist, something is always being sold as a point of contact for the transfer of the anointing. (I don’t have problem with things being sold on TV, but it has to be sold with the right motivation)  I have personally seen folks functioning like clouds without rain in ministry setting; they are empty barrels, a stench in the nose, a sounding brass without a clear sound of direction and purpose. They have ignored genuine relationship with Christ, and substituted God with techniques. When you lack an authentic relationship with Christ, you will not have the wisdom to act right. You can copy others by watching how they do stuff and be famous in what you do, but time will tell how that dead works, will be sustained.

Jesus must be the center of His Church and not man. I humbly plead with Church leaders to bring those who are desperate for the unction to function to the revelation of living Christ, who only can work in us both to will and to do of His good pleasure. We can’t let our egos take the place of Christ

Beloved, don’t develop the habit to copy or emulate some pace setters in society, through “special learning”, to give up your authentic self.  I am not a fan of fake it till you makes it. Our identity in God cannot be faked. We should cherish the originality of the graces that Christ gives. There are a lot of great and ordinary people I follow from far and near to draw inspiration, wisdom, counsel, creativity, leadership etc. but these unique people, are not my central focus in life. Christ is!

THE SUBTLE MECHANISM
Some people also believes, if you want to function in certain levels of the anointing, it’s not about prayer, holiness or a relationship. Just sow a special seed offering for a great man of God, and you will definitely walk in their anointing. Here is a thought to ponder on…who gives the anointing? God or Man or Special mediators! Can you buy it? Let scripture speak for itself; Acts 8 is an interesting picture of what is on the table today.  Simon the Sorcerer sees a unique manifestation of the anointing in Peters life, and he offered to pay for the grace bestowed on Peter that he can unleash such power to impact others.

Acts 8:19-20 “Give me this power also, that anyone on whom I lay hands may receive the Holy Spirit.”  Your money perish with you because imagesCAF2TDO1you thought the gift of God could be purchased with money.… Repent therefore of this your wickedness and pray God if perhaps the thought of your heart may be forgiven you. For I see that you are poisoned with bitterness and bound by iniquity (Acts 8.22-23)

GIVING There is nothing wrong in sowing money into the life of a great person, or a ministry for a worthy cause…which will probably give you favorable access into their life, to learn certain life principles and be activated in your heart to pursue God, who is not respecter of persons. Access into the lives of great people, should always challenge one to learn their secret walk with God, and not directly for the fruit of their life, with wrong motives. To Copy ones greatness as quick fix to deny process of growth, will not even help one to survive the test of time. Many have faded into oblivion like a 15 seconds commercial, whether it was ministry or business enterprise, because of lack of balance in relationship with God and the wisdom to manage what He gives.

YOU ARE UNIQUE IN YOUR OWN ANOINTING
Friend you carry the fullness of God in your born again spirit. You are living in a better covenant, where God resides in you permanently. You can only trust Him, for the seal and the guarantee of the spirit in your life, to be unleashed in the capacities of your calling. Whether you flip burgers in a restaurant, a waitress, cleaner, painter, entrepreneur, publisher, public speaker, an athlete, a pastor or government appointee; the anointing will cause you to excel. The anointing is not limited to the four walls of Photo Credit:shugsprisonblog.blogspot.com -a chapel. Corinthians reads ‘Now He who establishes us with you in Christ and has anointed us is God who has also sealed us and given us the Spirit in our hearts as a guarantee.’ We have been sealed with the Holy Spirit living inside us.

1 John 2.27: ‘These things I have written to you about those who try to deceive you. But the anointing which you have received from Him abides in you and you do not need that anyone teach you; but as the same anointing teaches you concerning all things and is true and is not a lie and just as it has taught you, you will abide in Him.’ The anointing who is the Holy Spirit is in us, it is He who guides us into the truth so we can glorify the Lord Jesus (John 1613-15). We are certainly not glorifying the Lord when we go to men to get the Holy Spirit; it is a lack of understanding and a lack of faith. God will give you deeper understanding of Himself. Be far from deception and walk by faith in the ability that God gives and nurture your daily relationship with Jesus, the anointed One.

Disclaimer:
I do not discourage coaching, mentoring, giving, submission, laying of hands and learning from others, whether it’s through the Tube or Church revivals, to improve one’s uniqueness.

© 2013 McDaniels Gyamfi

THE HARRRD ROAD OF A WASTEFUL LIFE AND THE GOD WHO CARES

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Deep down, there is a still small voice, persuading you to believe that your life is meant to be something more. You begin to wonder, reflecting on wherimagesCA1G7JI5e you are, at this moment in life (the regret, pain, hurt, sin, addiction, fear, miss opportunities and lack of interest in things that have eternal value);

            “Is this all there is for me in this life or there is something bigger and loftier, than my mind can conceive”?

The persuasions of God in your heart, is the driving force that brings one to a place of importance and action, if one learns to yield his life to this higher purpose; not succumbing to the pressure of the culture, built on illusions. John Piper in his book Don’t Waste Your Life, gives a clarion call to a generation who only live for themselves, because of our indulgence in some totally absurd philosophical ideas and concepts which has neither root nor basis in the word of God. He has this to say; “It’s easy to slip through life without taking any risks-without making your life count. But life ought not to be wasted. You don’t need to know a lot of things to make a lasting difference in the world, but you do have to know the few, great, unchanging, and glorious things that matter and be willing to live and to die for them”.

Don’t live your life solely obsessed with the illusions of the American Dream; you’ve been wired for something bigger, beautiful, magnificent, and loftier than the American Dream. Jesus is the model of one’s existence. We discover His purpose through His agonizing prayers, at Gethsemane. He prayed to His father; “Now My soul is troubled, and what shall I say? ‘Father, save Me from this hour? But for this purpose I came to this hour”. (John 12:27 NKJV) He lived a fulfilled life, to the Father’s joy – the cross was the symbol of His finished work, to bring man back to God in an organic relationship.

THE MEANING OF LIFE is a philosophical question concerning the significance of life or existence in general. It can also be expressed in different forms, such as “Why are we here?”, “What is life all about?”, and “What is the purpose of existence?” It has been the subject of much philosophical, scientific, and theological speculation throughout history. There have been a large number of proposed answers to these questions from many cultural and ideological backgrounds. Author Timothy Tang, in his book Real Answers to The Meaning of Life and Finding Happiness, tries to answer these questions by saying; “Life or human existence has no real meaning or purpose because human existence occurred out of a random chance in nature, and anything that exists by chance has no intended purpose”

It is totally absurd to say that human existence occurred out of a random chance in nature, and anything that exists by chance has no intended purpose. This and other false misrepresentation of our identity has swayed the masses, swimming in the sea of selfishness and emptiness. Friend, you are not an accident neither are you here by chance… you are not just a face in a crowd. You were created and wired by a Creative God, (See Genesis 1:26, 1390729_476297235817345_1573454466_nJeremiah 1:1-5) with a unique identity, to fulfill God’s heartbeat on earth, through relationship with Jesus Christ.

In the Westminster Shorter Catechism, the first question is: “What is the chief end of Man?”, that is, “What is Man’s main purpose?” The answer is: “Man’s chief end is to glorify God, and enjoy him forever”. God requires one to embrace the gift of eternal life: Now this is eternal life: that they know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom you have sent. (John 17:3 NIV)  This is the essence of our life -“to know God”

EPIC AWAKENING… You are not a random piece in an unplanned earth – you are a piece of the master. He has His signature scribbled on your total makeup, just as an artist code’s his painting with his signature, to raise its value. Don’t quit, don’t give up to the false misconceptions of your identity, and what is in stored for your life, on this side of the cross. The Godly purpose for your life is not discovered within a day… your rich relationship with Jesus Christ, will cause an epic awakening in your heart to unlock an activity of God, you can live and die for. Abraham, Moses, Joshua, Sampson, David and the entire saints who lived in the Biblical times were all ordinary men who were found by God, and received the breath of His activity, at a set period of their ordinary life. They were transformed by a purpose greater than their ordinary life. God has not ceased or frozen in His activity towards humanity… Jesus set the mark straight, to the Pharisees who opposed Him, when He healed a paralytic man on the Sabbath. The healing of the Paralytic man revealed the work of God, discovered and executed by the Son- In his defense, Jesus said to them, “My Father is always at his work to this very day, and I too am working.” (John 5:17 NIV)

Don’t believe in the lie of the enemy, and sit behind the fence, wasting away in a sinking, purposeless sand of life. Make the decision today, to anchor your life on things that have an eternal perspective and value. I believe that, God is persuading our stony hearts to surrender to Him, so we can capture what matters, within this prophetic season. Everything we have – wealth, riches, property, family etc. and all that we can do…blogging, singing, organizing, leading, cooking, giving, encouraging etc. on this side of eternity, must be tied up to a purpose greater and bigger than ourselves…We only enjoy the crumbs. (God’s crumbs are indescribable)

TREASURED CLAY BALLS… I read a story about a man who was exploring caves by the seashore. In one of the caves, he found a canvas bag with a bunch of hardened clay balls. It was like someone had rolled clay balls and left them out in the sun to bake. They didn’t look like much, but they intrigued the man, so he took the bag out of theimagesCACAMP15 cave with him. As he strolled along the beach, he would throw the clay balls one at a time out into the ocean as far as he could. He thought little about it until he dropped one of the balls and it cracked open on a rock. Inside was a beautiful, precious stone. Excited the man started breaking open the remaining clay balls. Each contained a similar treasure. He found thousands of dollars worth of jewels, in the 20 or so clay balls he had left. Then it struck him. He had been on the beach a long time. He had thrown maybe 50 or 60 of the clay balls with their hidden treasure into the ocean waves. Instead of thousands of dollars in treasure, he could have taken home tens of thousands, but he just threw it away. (Retrieved http://www.inspirationpeak.com)

You can surely have 99 reasons to live in regret at this very moment, and let every ounce of hope in your heart fizzle into the thin air, and live the rest of your life despairing about how unfair life has been to you. The opportunities you couldn’t cease or the things you could have done better, had the right people sailed with you through the high seas of life, with its unpredictable waves. A heart full of hurt and unanswerable questions will keep one stuck in the prison of the past; blaming yourself and others, instead of looking ahead to discover something bigger and greater than life. Life doesn’t owe us a thing, nobody owe us an apology. You should lift your eyes beyond life predicaments, and look unto Jesus Christ, who has become all that we can become in God. Don’t reject the wooing of the Spirit. Be happy and thankful to God, to be here today, even in your mess; cast it all on God. Surely, there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

THOUGHTS TO CHEW ON… Friend, prayerfully chew on these simple yet profound questions and thoughts below, in the presence of God as you find meaning or photo credit: www.blessedtobeawitness.blogspotactivate your purpose in life…
We lived to be loved – Are you embracing God’s love for you?
We live for missions – Are you sharing the love of God with unbelievers?
We live to worship – Worship is not music; music is a medium for a relationship of love with God!
I live to… – What is the essence of your life, today?

Congratulations! You have found and captured God’s heart and how He feels towards you. Thank you for taking the time to journey with me in finding purpose. Your comments, likes, feedback, sharing, etc.  is the lubricant for  greater acceleration of the gospel, through gravity of grace. You are in my prayers! Love and peace to you!! –  McDaniels Gyamfi

JESUS IS NOT ASHAMED OF YOU

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Almost overnight...Change
Almost overnight…Change

Gravity of Grace Note: Today marks a very important milestone in my journey with Jesus. Exactly three years ago, I felt born again, again, after years and years of addiction to a religion of self effort, works, condemnation, shame, guilt and sin consciousness. Have the liberty to check my encounter with Jesus, at the ABOUT page on gravity of grace, for more details. I celebrate the loveliness of Christ Jesus with you in mind; for who God is and all that He has done through Christ Jesus…giving humanity a platform, to share in the influence of His grace. Nate Pyle inspirational post, is my grace birthday to you. May you experience the goodness and mercies of God through this life terrain, as you walk with Jesus, the lover of your soul. Lots of love from me to you! – McDaniels Gyamfi

Shame is, perhaps, the greatest isolating force there is; keeping grace an unattainable arm’s length away from those needing it most.

I’ve noticed how Jesus never shamed those who knew all too well the pain of shame. Jesus called the prostitute – she who was used and shamed by the same people – daughter. To the woman who had five husbands, he offered living water. To the man born blind – who was shamed and whose parents were shamed for some unknown sin because their son was born blind – Jesus lifted up saying his blindness was for the glory of God.

When the rich young man walked away, Jesus did not shame him. Jesus did not shame Peter for his denial, but breathed encouragement over him as he told Peter to feed his sheep. He praised the Samaritan woman. He touched the lepers. He told called the children to himself.

Of so many people, Jesus was not ashamed. And Jesus is not ashamed of you.condemnation

You, with the deep down secret of things done in darkness – Jesus is not ashamed of.

You, with the pulsating fear of being found out – Jesus is not ashamed of.

You, who feels ashamed of the perpetration done to you – Jesus is not ashamed of.

You, who is ashamed of the image in the mirror – Jesus is not ashamed of.

You, who have yelled too loud and too inappropriately – Jesus is not ashamed of.

You, who have been cast out by those ashamed of you – Jesus is not ashamed of.

You, who have returned to the addictive cycle again and again – Jesus is not ashamed of.

Me, who feels not good enough – Jesus is not ashamed of.

The Gospel good news shining light on the darkness of shame is that Jesus is not ashamed to call you sister or brother (Hebrews 2:11)

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